It's OK to not have sex before marriage, but It's not so cool to not talk or discuss it before then.
Sex is something that many would rather leave till they are married.
People
make decisions as this all the time; whether due to absolute virginity,
or in some cases, just a decision to abstain from sex till they get
married to a particular partner.
For people like this, one of the most difficult things would be the determination of sexual compatibility with their partners.
The kind of sexual experience you get in a marriage could either make or mar your marriage.
The
story has once been shared of a bride who was asked by her new husband
for anal sex on the very night of their wedding or sometime thereabouts.
To abstain from sex is not a bad ideal if that's what you and your partner agree
This
particular couple had both abstained from sex till that wedding night,
and when the time came to consummate their union, it occurred that they
both had totally different ideas of what sex was meant to be like.
Apparently,
the couple in question must surely not have had proper talk about their
sexual preferences and towing such line in a sexless relationship could
be the deadliest recipe for disaster.
Deciding
to not have sex before marriage is not a bad thing, and if that is what
you want with your partner, it's absolutely fine.
But choosing not to ascertain the sexual compatibility between you and your partner before taking such a huge leap as marriage is not advisable.
The decision to not discuss sex before marriage could prove disastrous
In this week's edition of Love, Life, and Everything in Between, Uwanma Odefa explains how you can determine sexual common grounds between yourself and a partner.
According to her, communication is one of the biggest things you need. And that is absolutely true.
Since
you will not actually be engaging in the sex, it is only logical to ask
and have honest conversations about what that partner sees sex as, and
what teases and pleases them.
The vlogger presents this topic in the simplest language and in-depth manner possible in the video below.
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